One Mom’s Battle

Founder Tina Swithin to Host Retreat for Survivors of Narcissistic Abuse

The common denominator in most high-conflict custody battles is Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) or other Cluster B personality disorders such as antisocial and borderline personality disorders. When a person finds themselves in the midst of a custody battle with a narcissist, there are a variety of fears and concerns related to the court process, the children, marital assets, and finances. Many times, the victim of narcissistic abuse is left operating in survival mode, and their own health and well-being is placed on the backburner.

Author Tina Swithin is no stranger to the trials and tribulations of high-conflict custody battles. Her books “Divorcing a Narcissist” and “The Narc Decoder: Understanding the Language of the Narcissist,” delve deep into the psyche of a partner who uses (and abuses) their significant other (and the family court system). In 2015, Tina began offering annual retreats affectionately known as The Lemonade Power Retreats. Tina created this retreat in an effort to share not only her own experiences, but to create a safe, healing place for attendees to share their own journeys with like-minded individuals. “I have dedicated my life to providing resources and support to survivors of narcissistic abuse through my books, coaching services, and advocacy in the family court system,” Tina explains. “The Lemonade Power Retreat is where my heart is – these women are amazing and the connections that are formed during the retreats will last a lifetime. This is such an isolating journey that few understand. We are taking lemons and making lemonade – together.”

The retreat also emphasizes the importance of sisterhood; the idea that “Lemonade Sisters” provide a sympathetic ear was resonant among many attendees. “The camaraderie we shared in a very short time period of time created a very strong bond among us,” the Lemonade Power Retreat attendee explained. “When we left the retreat, each of us was stronger and better equipped to deal with what our ex-husbands would be throwing our way in only a matter of time.”

“Each of us left with a long-awaited sense of peace and renewal,” explained one Lemonade Power Retreat attendee. “As with any trauma in life, unless someone has actually experienced it, the people around them just don’t get it. Each of us who attended were victims of either emotional, physical, sexual or financial abuse. Each of us could relate to something in everyone’s journey.”

The 2018 Lemonade Power Retreat takes place September 21st (4:30pm) -23rd (11:30am) in Sedona, Arizona, and the retreat will feature a host of activities that will help any struggling parent feel like they are standing on more solid ground. Some topics covered at Tina’s retreats include the NPD relationship, custody battle tips and strategies, PTSD and coping strategies, boundaries, communication, documentation, healing and empowerment. Retreats are limited to groups of 20 attendees which allows for each attendee to feel equally heard and supported.

Bio: Tina Swithin survived a Category Five Divorce Hurricane while acting as her own attorney in a custody battle that turned her family’s life upside-down. While divorces are never easy, Tina quickly learned that a divorce involving an individual with Narcissistic Personality Disorder takes the term “high-conflict” to a level that few can comprehend. In an effort to articulate what was happening in her life and custody battle, Tina took shelter from the storm by chronicling her journey in her (now) internationally recognized blog, “One Mom’s Battle.” Tina’s battle came to an end in October 2014 when she prevailed and the courts acted in the best interest of her daughters by revoking all visits and contact with her ex-husband.
SOURCE One Mom’s Battle

Fatigue Named Top Health Concern for Women

You are not alone! Worn out and weary, women across the country named fatigue among their top five health concerns. (webmd.com) Dr. Sharma shares several possible causes of fatigue and suggestions to put the spring back into your step.

  1. The thyroid is a butterfly-shaped gland in your neck and produces the hormones that regulate how your body burns fuel for energy. It can be overactive or underactive, but either way you’ll feel sleepy.
    An underactive thyroid can make feel like you can’t get your engine going. With an overactive thyroid your engine’s on overdrive and you start to burn out. A simple test can determine if there is an issue.
  2. When your heart isn’t pumping efficiently, it can’t get enough blood out to your body, and that can make you tired. Fatigue is one of the most common complaints of women with heart disease. If you have heart risk factors such as obesity, high blood pressure, and a family history of heart conditions, have your heart checked out. Measuring your blood pressure and other simple tests such as an electrocardiogram or an echocardiogram can pinpoint whether your heart is the source of your weariness.
  3. There’s been an epidemic of vitamin D deficiency over the last few decades because we’ve been avoiding the sun. Too little of this essential vitamin can sap your bone strength, and some research links a deficiency of vitamin D to chronic fatigue syndrome.

    A blood test can determine whether you’re getting enough of your daily D. If not, a supplement can get you to the amount you need each day. The Institute of Medicine, which published new guidelines in 2010, recommends that most adults get 600 international units a day.

    Dr. Priyanka Sharma specializes in really listening to her patients and she is trained to solve puzzling diagnostic problems. Dr. Sharma is trained and equipped to deal with whatever problem a patient brings, no matter how common or rare or how simple or complex. She is specially trained to solve puzzling diagnostic problems and can handle severe chronic illnesses and situations where several different illnesses may strike at the same time.

If It Doesn’t Hurt…..

By Dr. Scott L. Rose

I am not sure who came up with that saying, but whoever did is probably partly responsible for a lot of pain and misery. The human body is an amazing thing, but one perceived flaw is that when something is wrong it may not always cause pain, illness, or discomfort. I don’t think this is a flaw, but really part of a very well thought out design. If every time something hurts we would just react to that situation, there would be little reason to do otherwise. No pain can be a dangerous illusion.   Understanding this should lead one to be an active participant in their health. We should always be working towards leading a healthier life with the key words of “working towards.” Health is not a destination, it’s an ongoing journey. And one of the best things you can do for yourself is preventative care.

Concerning oral health, there are so many things people CAN do, but unfortunately don’t. Many people think that absence of discomfort is absence of dental issues, until something painful happens. By that time, treatment options become limited, more expensive, and more time consuming. It’s sad, but I see this every day. What I suggest to patients is an Oral Wellness Plan. A plan that sees what is good and builds upon that; a plan that looks for potential problems and stops them from beginning. And a plan that takes existing problems and fixes them before they become larger issues.

Choose a dentist/healthcare provider who is willing to work not only on you, but with you; someone who will take a holistic approach and a wholistic approach is an important step in the right direction. I think a good ending to the opening phrase would be:

“If it doesn’t hurt…it’s a good time to make a plan to keep healthy and pain free.”

Flower Power

Ask any bride what their favorite part of wedding planning is and nine times out of ten they’ll give the same response: flowers, flowers, flowers! Whether you’re picking out the bouquets or designing the centerpieces, choosing the right flower arrangements is a fun but crucial part of planning a wedding. And have you seen the hottest floral trend of 2018?

Floral hoops and wreaths are the latest trend taking the wedding world by storm, and we have one word for it: Yes! For years weddings have been subjected to the same format of floral arrangements, but this new trend brings a whole new meaning to the phrase ‘flower power’! Use these hoops as chandelier decorations on the ceiling, bridesmaids’ bouquets, or even as an alternative to a boutonniere for the men. The possibilities are endless! Using this modern design technique will bring a fresh, trendy vibe to your wedding.

Not planning a wedding? These hoops can be used in a number of ways for other events as well. They make for cute centerpieces at dinner parties or wall decorations at brunch! How would you use these floral wreaths at your events?

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