The BEST memories are made when Gathered around the TABLE!
Dr. Mindy Greenstein is a psycho-oncologist, a mental health therapist who has devoted her professional life to easing the emotional pain of cancer patients and their loved ones. She knows first-hand what she’s talking about – she is herself a survivor of breast cancer. For her, the cancer diagnosis “liberated her from the fear of her own mortality.” This freedom in turn allowed her, over time, to view cancer as something useful, even as it was sometimes awful.
The value of what Dr. Greenstein does, leading individual and group therapy sessions, is similar to what we do here at The Gathering Place. We may not be able to take your pain away, but we could help your recovery with our holistic emphasis on body, mind and spirit. We agree with the doctor’s philosophy: do more of what makes you feel better, do less of what makes you feel bad.
Dr. Greenstein remembers a time in her journey when she felt broken, when she cried, “I can’t do this.” Check out her books, the writing of which she now sees as the reason she went through cancer.
Participate in any of our programs and services at The Gathering Place, all at no charge, to learn the powerful lesson of how being able to confront our fears can let us live a more authentic life.
Mindy Greenstein, PhD is a clinical psychologist and cancer psychologist, as well as a writer, mother, and two-time breast cancer survivor. She works as a consultant to the geriatric group in the Department of Psychiatry at Memorial Sloan-Kettering Cancer Center where she serves as the Chief Clinical Fellow and helped develop Meaning-Centered Group Psychotherapy.
Books by Mindy Greenstein, PhD
The House on Crash Corner… And Other Unavoidable Calamities
The House on Crash Corner and Other Unavoidable Calamities is about the sad, hilarious and meaningful ways we deal with the crises in our lives. You can’t spell joy without the oy. True stories range from growing up in Brooklyn as the Yiddish speaking daughter of Holocaust survivors, to my work with cancer patients, to life as a mom of two young boys, to becoming a cancer patient myself.
Lighter As We Go: Virtues, Character, Strengths and Aging
The fears of aging have been one long cascading domino effect through the years. Research shows that having a bad attitude toward aging when we’re young is associated with poorer health when we’re older. Lighter as We Go introduces compassion, justice, community, and culture to help calm our cascading fears of aging.
HERE ARE MY TOP TIPS FOR PREPARING A HOME FOR THE COMPETITIVE SPRING REAL ESTATE MARKET
1. Put A Plan In Place. Develop a plan of action before you sell your home. Are you planning on buying another home once your home sells? Do you have the option to move in with family? Can you rent, if need be? Can you buy before you sell?
2. Consult a Lender to Find your “Purchasing Power.” I would be happy to recommend local lenders committed to customer service.
3. Clean and Organize. Give your home a thorough “spring cleaning.” Clean out closets and pack away items you do not use. It’s important that you de-clutter and organize your home. Don’t forget to go the extra mile, wash your windows, dust your blinds, dust baseboard trim and clean appliances.
4. Interview Prospective REALTORS®. It is critical when selling a home that you interview a REALTOR®. As the weather warms up the top producing REALTORS® will only continue to get busier. Now is the time to start reaching out to the agents you think would be a
great representative to sell your home.
5. Be Proactive and Prepare. A licensed Realtor will help you prepare and navigate every step of the process. As a full time Realtor with Berkshire Hathaway Kovack Realtors, I am committed to meeting the needs of my clients while we travel through the process of buying and selling a home. I would love to meet with you and help you sell or buy your next home sweet home.
Cracking egg myths in time for Easter!
Easter eggs are a centerpiece of many family Easter traditions. Easter eggs symbolize fertility and rebirth to some, but many people associate Easter eggs with youngsters scouring the yard in search of treasure.
Whether Easter eggs are associated with secular or religious beliefs, these colorful staples of Easter Sunday are an integral part of springtime holiday decor and celebrations. Certain misconceptions about Easter eggs have developed over time,
and the following are some of the more common myths about Easter eggs that have made the rounds.
Myth: Easter eggs are safe to eat after your egg hunt is over.
Fact: Hard-boiled eggs generally remain safe to eat at room temperature for about two hours. If the temperature outside or indoors is very warm, the eggs should be eaten within one hour. People risk food-borne illnesses if they consume Easter eggs that have been left out for several hours or overnight. It is better to dispose of colored eggs after the annual egg hunt or at least keep hard-boiled eggs refrigerated until the hunt begins.
Myth: It is unsafe to eat all dyed Easter eggs.
Fact: Whether dyed eggs are safe or not depends on the type of dye used. Many kits use vegetable-based dyes that are food-safe. These same pigments are used in traditional food coloring. Even if the dye has penetrated beneath the shell, it should still be safe for consumption. Kits for blown-out eggs may use dyes that are not food-safe. Also, people who are allergic to certain food dyes might want to avoid eating dyed eggs.
Myth: Pastel-colored eggs have long-rooted religious significance.
Fact: An Easter egg hunt is a tradition that originated with pagan spring festivals. But like many pagan practices, Easter egg hunting was eventually adopted by Christians and assigned religious significance. In the Orthodox and Eastern Catholic Churches, Easter eggs are dyed red to represent the blood of Christ shed on the cross. The hard shell of the egg symbolizes the sealed Tomb of Christ for many. In A.D. 1610 under Pope Paul V, the Christian Church officially adopted the Easter egg custom that the eggs symbolize the resurrection.
Myth: An Easter egg roll is an American tradition.
Fact: In Germany, England and other countries, children traditionally rolled eggs down hillsides at Easter. This practice may have initially symbolized the rolling away of the rock from Jesus Christ’s tomb before his resurrection. When European immigrants arrived in North America, they brought these Easter egg traditions with them. One of the more popular Easter egg rolls of modern day takes place on the White House lawn, where children push an egg through the grass with a long-handled spoon. Some say this tradition was established by Dolly Madison in 1814.
Myth: A raw egg will stand on end during the spring equinox.
Fact: It is believed that because the sun is equidistant from the south and north poles on the spring equinox, special gravitational forces apply on this day. These forces should make it possible to balance an egg on its end only on this day. Please send me a picture of your egg standing on end and I will post!
Easter eggs are a lasting tradition and one of the more popular symbols of the holiday. Although many myths surround Easter eggs, the truth is just waiting to be unhatched.
Let’s Resurrect the Family Meal
By Medina County Health Department Registered Dietitian
Many of us remember the days when our parents sent us out of the house to play and didn’t expect us back until the next meal. “Dinner at 6:00 and don’t be late!” Families of today tend to look very different than those of the past. After-school activities, late work days, long commutes – it’s no wonder few families eat dinner together.
Family meals are much more than just having something to eat; they are an opportunity to teach, enjoy, and bond with each other.
Sharing a meal is one way to build family unity. It gives children a sense of belonging and helps them feel safe and secure in a busy, and often confusing, world. Family meals offer the chance to teach social skills, manners, and even basic cooking skills that will last a lifetime. Evidence indicates that children have better report cards and teens are less likely to become depressed, abuse drugs and alcohol, smoke, develop eating disorders and get pregnant when they participate in regular family meals.
Family meals offer an opportunity to model healthy eating habits and reduce a child’s risk for obesity. Children who have more family meals eat more fruits and vegetables, lean meats, and milk. They also eat less fried foods and drink less soda.
The family meal doesn’t have to be fancy, complicated or at the same time every day. The importance is to find a time to come together with the people you care about to eat, laugh, discuss and share. Turn off the television, silence the cell phones; connect with your family.
Tips to make your family meal a success:
- Involve your children in meal planning and preparation. It teaches them valuable life skills and increases the chance that they will eat the meal.
- Choose a meal that fits into your schedule. Family mealtimes do not have to be a dinner.
- Start small. Choose one or two times a week to set aside for a family meal. Build up as your schedule allows.
- When cooking a meal, double up and freeze half for another busy day.
- Parents should decide what time the meal is served and what food choices will be available. Children decide which foods they eat and how much. Make the meal stress free.
- Keep the conversation light. Avoid conflict and discipline during meal times.
- Keep your meals distraction free. Turn off the television, silence the cell phones and put other electronic devices away.
The Medina County Health Department offers many programs and services that can help you plan and learn more about healthy eating. For more information, log onto www.medinahealth.org or contact us at 330-723-9688 or toll-free at 1-888-723-9688.
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Achieving a physical/spiritual/emotional balance can be enhanced through the natural healing energy of Reiki. In our universe is a vital, living energy force that can be used as a tool for health and healing. For over 2000 years this energy, sometimes called Chi, has been utilized in both the martial arts and in the healing arts. In the early 1900s, Dr. Mikao Usui of Japan developed The Usui System of Natural Healing, or Reiki (ray-kee). Maggie Kimble, licensed massage therapist and Reiki Master, trained in the Usui system, can introduce you to this healing energy through individual sessions or training classes.
A typical Reiki session involves gentle or no touch. Clothed, you either sit in a chair or lay on a massage table, while the Reiki practitioner places their hands on or near your head, shoulders, torso, stomach, back, and feet for approximately 3 to 5 minutes at each position. The Reiki energy will flow to where the body needs it the most and can accelerate your own, natural ability to heal the mind, the body and the spirit.
Maggie teaches three levels of Reiki training so that you, too, can be attuned to the healing energy. Your training could be used to help yourself or to help others. To learn more about Reiki healing, Reiki training classes or to schedule an individual appointment with Maggie, you can contact her at 440-655-3927.
What exactly do kids DO online?
Your 9 year old daughter is “quietly playing” on the internet in her bedroom. Your 14 year-old son is talking to his virtual army platoon via his Xbox Live videogame. Your 7 year-old son is battling other villages on his IPod Touch or IPad while playing Clash of Clans or Minecraft. Your 17-year old grandson is constantly taking photos and texting (sometimes during family meals).
Other than the texting during dinner example (which is equal parts disrespectful and infuriating), these scenarios seem fairly benign. Would it surprise you to know that every of these examples are wrought with potential risks?
Internet: Gateway to the World
Having access to the Internet is a necessary part of a modern child’s life. Global accessibility is what makes the Internet so incredibly useful and powerful, but it is also the very thing that makes it so potentially dangerous to a child.
Anytime children use a device which is Internet connected (laptop, tablet, gaming console, cell phone, camera, IPod Touch, etc.), you are inviting the entire universe into your home. You might as well go to bed with all of your windows and your front door wide open.
Playing quietly in the bedroom
Children should never have computers in their bedrooms, particularly if the laptop or computer has a webcam attached. Children as old as 13 years should be using devices in a public space in the home. Cyberbullying and sexual predation flourish in the dark. You should be able to read over your child’s shoulder without her seeing you coming. Moreover, make it clear that you have the right and the responsibility to review and overrule her behavior at any time.
Online and LIVE Gaming
Consoles like Xbox Live, which encourage playing with friends via an Internet connection, have the potential to connect strangers to your child. There have been many cases of attempted abductions after a child (thinking he is playing against another child) arranges to meet an online playmate IRL (in real life). Sexual predators groom these children over months and months, use voice modulators to make them sound young, and get to know your child before proposing an IRL meeting.
Gaming apps and the very young
Parents often make the mistake of providing their very young children (4-10) with Wi-Fi enabled devices such as an IPad or IPod Touch. There is a game called Clash of Clans, which is currently popular among this younger set. The game itself is quite benign: you build clans and cities and stage great battles. One of the main features of the game (building a clan) is open chat with clan mates. Young children are being asked for their address and personal information via this chatting feature. These children do not have the emotional or intellectual maturity to understand that their “clan mate” may want to do them harm.
Photos, sexting, and long-term impact
Sexting has become an enormous problem with children as young as 11 years old sending provocative and naked photos of themselves to friends. Our current generation of parents cannot relate to child pornography in any way. Just know that these children perceive these photos as “no big deal.” They do not understand that a child can be charged with creation of child pornography even when the photo is of himself. If that child sends that photo to a friend, he can be then charged with distribution of child pornography. Make no mistake, children are being charged and prosecuted as felons as a result of sexting. High school and college students have lost scholarships and college acceptances as a result. Some of these children have even been listed on child sex predator registries.
What to do?
As a parent, your single line of defense is education. In order to monitor effectively you must become educated in the devices, apps, and risks that your child is facing on a daily basis. The web offers infinite possibilities for education, socialization, and outreach; just make sure that your child is traveling through every part of her/his world safely.
Jesse Weinberger, www.overnightgeekuniversity.com/women/
By Thomas Collura, Ph.D., QEEG-D, BCN, NCC, LPC-CR & Christen H. Stahl, NCC, LPC-CR
Some parents don’t want to put their children on medication, but what else can they do?
At the Brain Enrichment Center, we use non-invasive interventions that teach the brain to work more efficiently without medication. Neurofeedback or brainwave training has been used by licensed clinicians for brain relaxation training for a myriad of symptoms and performance improvement for decades. Over the past 30 years, evidence based research studies have confirmed the validity and credibility of neurofeedback for mental health related conditions such as ADHD, ADD, anxiety, depression, and other mental health struggles like anger, behavior issues, and difficulty dealing with stress or brain injury. When brainwave activity is dysregulated, or is not within the normal ranges, various types of psychological and behavioral manifestations or inconsistent performance occur. For example, when a child has difficulty learning in school, it may not be that they don’t care enough, but that important locations within the brain are not properly communicating. Another example is the adult who worries constantly. They may have too much fast brainwave activity that doesn’t allow them to calm down. These examples involve an inflexible and inefficiently working brain. Many turn to medication, which controls how the brain operates. Neurofeedback empowers clients to control their own brain function.
The brain has the power to learn, change, and heal. Neurofeedback, education for your brain, helps you learn how to self-regulate and become flexible, allowing the brain to more efficiently use its resources. A brain with greater flexibility has the capacity to more healthily adapt to challenging life situations and improve optimal mental performance.
Many mental health problems are seen as dysregulation in EEG activity and related to chronic stress, trauma and learned responses. Neurofeedback or EEG Biofeedback teaches relaxation and self-regulation and can help you learn important new skills and/or improve the skills you already possess. Clients often report feeling clearer, more energetic, more focused, yet notice an inner calmness. Learning brain training is as easy as riding a bike.
Contact Brain Enrichment Center at 440.232.9100 or visit www.brainenrichmentcenter.com
Midwifery as practiced by certifi ed nurse-midwives (CNMs®) encompasses a full range of primary health care services for women from adolescence beyond menopause. These services include primary care, gynecologic and family planning services, preconception care, care during pregnancy, childbirth and the postpartum period, and care of the normal newborn during the first 28 days of life. Midwives provide initial and ongoing comprehensive assessment, diagnosis and treatment.
CNMs are educated in two disciplines: midwifery and nursing. They earn graduate degrees, complete a midwifery education program accredited by the Accreditation Commission for Midwifery Education (ACME), and pass a national certifi cation examination administered by the American Midwifery Certifi cation Board (AMCB) to receive the professional designation of CNM.
1. CNMs have low rates of Cesarean Sections.
2. CNMs have high rates of successful VBACs (Vaginal Birth After Cesarean).
3. CNMs are highly skilled in labor support and non-pharmacological comfort measures.
4. CNMs may also offer pain medication in labor, including epidurals.
5. CNMs work toward creating a safe and satisfying birth experience for women, with minimal intervention unless it is medically necessary.
6. CNMs offer holistic, family-centered care.
For Gynecologic Care:
7. CNMs can diagnose and treat many common health care problems including vaginal infections.
8. CNMs are knowledgeable about birth control methods and can help women find the best method for them.
9. CNMs focus on patient education and spend time during each visit to provide information and allow time to answer questions.
10. CNMs consider the patient as partner-in-care and provide individualized, patient
Why Choose Wellspring?
At WellSPRing, we believe that everyone has a right to safe, satisfying care
with respect for human dignity and cultural variations. We support each woman’s right to self-determination, to complete information, and to active participation in her health care. We believe that the normal processes of pregnancy and birth can be enhanced through education, support and advocacy. We believe that clients are partners in their care, be it obstetrical or gynecologic.
At WellSPRing, you will learn about how to prepare for your birth, about the natural history of labor, and about the strength of the human spirit. You will be encouraged to trust your instincts and use them to enhance your care. You will be taught the value of gentle, family centered birth options.
At WellSPRing, we also provide a wide scope of services beyond prenatal care and childbirth. We offer well woman care throughout the lifespan. We can provide contraceptive counseling, annual exams and Pap smears, gynecological exams and treatment, menopause and perimenopause counseling, and sexually transmitted disease testing and treatment. In addition, we love to help women do whatever is possible to protect their health futures.
At WellSPRing, we often refer to other providers for care. Your condition may be enhanced by the skills of a massotherapist, a chiropractor, a medical doctor, an acupuncturist, a naturopathic doctor, a homeopathic doctor, or any of many other varieties of provider. We strive to be knowledgeable about our colleague providers so that we are better able to direct you to the one(s) that fi t your need when your need is out of our scope.
At WellSPRing, we keep on dreaming. We have, in our plans, a women’s resource center as well as a birth center. Did you know that while in 2010, 95% of midwife attended births were in a hospital setting, almost 3% were in a birth center? This is an exciting part of the future of WellSPRing; one that we are continuously driving toward. You can anticipate hearing more about these projects by the end of this year!
“Vacation, winner, surprise,” these words are music to our ears. These next words, not so pleasing to the ear, “work week, flu season, housework.” What this has to do with your dog? Everything. Imagine your dog having learned to become anxious, fearful, or defiant based on hearing certain words and how they are spoken. The result can be the exact opposite of what you wanted. If this has happened to you, read on.
At Paramount Dog Training, we have provided dog behavior modification and training for 15 years. The need for our help is based solely on how owners unintentionally communicate commands inconsistently to their dogs. Also, in what we fail to do to make sure the dogs mind is calm and receptive. The result is a frustrated dog AND owner.
Research the Breed Before Bringing Home
My journey into this profession began 15 years ago with an impulse adoption of a Siberian Husky. Not understanding the needs of the breed, I made every mistake possible and paid the price. Soiled carpets, chewed wood furniture, “dog at large” fines from the dog warden. Out of shear frustration, I took the dog to a trainer to prove that I had a dog with no IQ or train-ability. Oh was I surprised. Not only did the dog demonstrate his ability to follow commands immediately, I was made to realize I failed to fulfi ll any of the needs that would make him balanced.
It went like this: Husky’s need exercise. Lack of exercise equaled pent up energy and chewed furniture. Chewed furniture made me angry. Anger caused him to soil on site when he saw me. Confining him to stop the chewing equaled more pent up energy. This of course resulted in him running away. This started the cycle all over again. I became so focused on my rebel of a dog, I never even thought it was lack of things on my part. There is help!
THE FIX OF BEHAVIOR PROBLEMS ARE SIMPLE, DAILY RITUALS.
- A tired mind is a calm mind. Walk, bike, or run your dog to burn the energy that interferes with focus.
- You lead, the dog will follow or dog leads and you will follow. Ask yourself what you do every day to show the dog that you love them? Now ask what you do every day to show that you lead them? We follow people due to their title or pay grade; dogs do not.
- Teach the dog what a command means; don’t assume they know it.
- Say the command only one time, then immediately praise them or guide them for failure. Dog’s cannot count, but every time they hear “come” and are not moving toward you, in their mind, that is what come means. Same with sit.
- Have a four-foot drag leash on the dog indoors. If the dog fails a command, you can physically guide them to comply.
- Praise the specific command, “good sit,” “good stay.” Saying “good boy” or “good Fido” is too general.
- Training. Simply put, unless you obedience train a dog, how do you expect them to be obedient. English is not the dog’s primary language. By controlling what is important to the dog, you control the dog. This includes food, affection, the walk.
A comprehensive, evaluation of your dog will tell us exactly what we need to bring calm balance to your home. The approach to training will be based on trainability, temperament, and issues of the dog.
Paramount Dog Training has been serving since 1999, with four certified trainers to help bring calmness to your home. We will train any age, breed or behavior problem. We have private, group and puppy classes. Once you have an obedient dog, you will never go back! Serving Cuyahoga, Medina and surrounding counties.